Slowly finding success

I love to learn, to think, to collect information, look for areas of agreement, and look back to see how things fit.

What are my strengths?  An interesting test from Gallup, at  You have to buy a book for the test.

Learner – You love to learn.  This means I am energized by learning.

Intellection – You like to think.  Yes, I just like to think.  It is fun.  It can be a dead end as far as getting things done.  But I have to think.

Input – You are inquisitive.  I collect things.  I collect information.

Harmony – You look for areas of agreement.  I hate conflict.  We are all in the same boat.

Context – You look back.  You look back because that is where the answers are.

What does this test tell me?  My strengths have been my weaknesses.  Thinking is helpful, but I get bogged down.  I want to keep learning, and never doing.  I have to break the chain.  Maybe writing will help.  I am finally at a point where I am changing.

Context may be my salvation.  Why is that?  Looking back I see a pattern.

I had the ability to get the interest of groups since I was in high school. I never did anything with that ability.

I have been studying success at least since my college days.  I first read Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie, Earl Nightingale, and W. Clement Stone.  I liked what they were saying, but did not understand.  I did not have the burning desire.  I had a meager understanding of human relations.

I can be slow at using the ideas that I learn.  I took Dale Carnegie training in the mid 90’s. I went back and coached 5 more classes and took the advanced speaking.  I loved it while I was there, but did not apply a lot of what I learned.  One of the greatest insights was finding that everyone has an interesting story, and they can learn to tell it.

Being bright meant that I could have success working at a leisurely pace.  I did my work and more, but I could have done even more had I wanted to.

After being laid off and over 50, I flailed around and tried several sales jobs.  No they were not career type jobs.  I fell back on computer tech support, as that was what I knew.  I found BNI (Business Networking International).  I began to learn about Givers Gain.

People are social.  We like relating to other people.  We like to help other people.  This is how small businesses work.  We give referrals to people we know and trust.  They make us look good.  Everyone is rewarded.

Here’s where I am right now.  I have chosen a business that can be scaled large.  I am working on my purpose.  I am developing habits for success.  I believe we do live in a world of abundance.  That each additional person offers two hands to help and a brain to think.

I’m getting started.

WordCamp Atlanta and Success

WordCamp Atlanta 2013 was a turning point for me.  I had not expected this.  The messages I got at this meeting re-enforced everything I have been learning about myself and success.  A marvelous meeting.  Tell my story.  Now to start writing.

Wade Kwon loves telling stories and talking about Birmingham.  Wade says, “Blog, Baby, Blog.”  Kimanzi Constable loves telling his story using WordPress.  Syed Balkhi talks about managing time for bloggers, but really for life.  John Saddington showed how creative he is at finding niches to blog and make money.  Chris Ames was all about writing and story telling.  Writing to remember.

The past year, I keep hearing the same general messages about success.  Choose my goals.  Success comes from habits.  Get organized.  Help other people.   Do it now.  All this was at WordCamp as part of blogging.

Finally, one book is bringing it together for me, Your Own Worst Enemy by Kenneth W. Christian.  Apparently, I am not the only one.  We are suffering from mass adult under-achievement.  I am working thru the book now.

I make no promises to air all my issues.  However, I have learned that being vulnerable can be a source of strength.

I am ready to move forward with network marketing.  The catch is my goal.  August, 2012, when John Milton Fogg asked me what my goals were, I had no answer.  I wanted to make some money.  No particular amount.  Just make some money.  I am wrestling with exactly what that goal is.

Since joining Isagenix, I have lost over 30 lbs.  I noticed after a couple of months that I wanted to run up stairs.  This was something I had not expected.  I am thinking more clearly.  Yes, this may be a little of a commercial, but it is what has happened.

I can get depressed, but I think my overall view is that the world is enough.  I am working on seeing a world of abundance.  Maybe, I just need to help other people change their world.

I am a work in progress, as is this blog.

Why have I chosen a new path?

Last summer, I began looking seriously at network marketing.  To succeed means that I show other people how to succeed on their terms.  I make money only if they make money.  I think the business model of the future.  No, not everyone will join.

I did not want to build tech support business with employees.  I knew my income was very limited with only me in the business.  I needed something else.

I had no money for a franchise.  Besides, I did not want employees.  I had watched some friends fail with franchises. Become trapped in the franchise and not be able to quit.

Network marketing is built on helping others succeed.  Can I learn to build the business?  I have not done it in the past.



I wanted success all my life.  I have been looking thru the window at the candy store all my life.  I have not been able to see how to get it, or even what it means.

Oh, I read the success books.  I wanted to have a burning desire.  I did not have it.  I wanted to have goals.  But how could I, I did not really want anything.

I was lonely and could not bring myself to do anything about it for years.  Even as I tried, I could not break free.

I learned that I did not and do not trust government.  I want people to have liberty.  I do not think the way is thru politics.

I was somewhat successful helping people with computer technical issues.  Dale Carnegie started a change, as I saw and heard the interesting stories of all sorts of people.  But I still did not see what success could mean for me.

I struggled with not finding a job after 2001.  I flailed about.  I began networking.  Networking is what you do when you lose a job.  I found hanging around with other people out of work was depressing.

I began to do what I knew, computer tech support.  I did not get building relationships at all.

In 2007, I found SendOutCards and BNI.  I began to see the value of relationships.   SendOutCards was not bringing in money,  I began to have more success with tech support.  I was depressed and not functioning well.  BNI was really all that kept me going.

Last year after spending all my savings and losing my home, I began to come out of depression.  I was approached about network marketing.  And I began a new journey.


I have been absent for some time.  I’m back because I need to do some thinking out loud.

I have studied success programs unsuccessfully for as long as I can remember.  I have been on a path since my college days, but I did not realize what that path was.  In the past six months, the path has started to become clearer.  Now I see a pattern.

As the saying goes, “When the student is ready, the teacher appears.”

Marketing Secrets

If you believe that having the absolute best product is the key to success in network marketing, please check out another blog.

I always thought the absolute best product was the key to success in marketing, especially in mlm marketing.  Only recently have I begun to see that is not true.

One question should answer that for you.  Are all successful products the absolute best.  In fact, none are.  Having a great product is part of the package, but your product is not perfect.

The secret is marketing.  Don’t tell lies.  Do tell stories.  Stories are how we communicate.  Tell about successes.  It is the connecting that sells the product.

There are a number of important considerations in finding a great network marketing company.

One thing worth knowing is that most MLM companies fail.  Thousands have started.  Only about 200 have lasted over 10 years.  Start-up companies have not been a good bet.  An established company is your best bet.

Why have I not posted recently?

I have been depressed.  I am working on some new approaches to overcoming depression.

I have not done well for about ten years.  I have learned a lot in that time.  Unfortunately, I have allowed all this to ruin my marriage and my financial life.  Now, I have to get going again.

So what happens now.  I am using the methods of postive psychology to deal with depression and find a way to flourish.

First steps, keep a gratitude journal and begin mediation.  This will help break the hold of depression, which is made worse with rumination.  Going over failures and what caused them only leads to even more feelings of depression.

Using the results of the tests at Authentic Happiness,  I am working on using my strengths to succeed at Business Network International, BNI.  What are those strengths?

Love of learning
You love learning new things, whether in a class or on your own. You have always loved school, reading, and museums-anywhere and everywhere there is an opportunity to learn.

Forgiveness and mercy
You forgive those who have done you wrong. You always give people a second chance. Your guiding principle is mercy and not revenge.

Humor and playfulness
You like to laugh and tease. Bringing smiles to other people is important to you. You try to see the light side of all situations.

Citizenship, teamwork, and loyalty
You excel as a member of a group. You are a loyal and dedicated teammate, you always do your share, and you work hard for the success of your group.

Curiosity and interest in the world
You are curious about everything. You are always asking questions, and you find all subjects and topics fascinating. You like exploration and discovery.

The core of BNI is “Givers gain.”  This is often overlooked as the core of a free market system.  You can only succeed by giving something to others to help them.  I had to learn this part of the system, even believing a free market was the only way to prosperity.

I want to help other people succeed.  This is the way of the world.

My Starting Point

Having the right attitude is extremely important for your network success.  I know because I have had problems with my own attitude.  When you are negative and depressed, it is difficult to make good things happen.   People will run away.

If you think you have a problem with negativity, you probably do.  What has helped me understand my issues and see a way to change is positive psychology.  Positive psychology finds what is right with people and helps you learn to be more positive and flourish.

Only about 20% of the population is naturally positive and resilient.  Their studies lead them to believe that we can learn to be positive and flourish.  You may want to keep your positive thinking books, but add some new ones backed by extensive studies and tests.

Unfortunately, most positive thinking seminars start wearing off as soon as you leave the seminar.  The advice is not bad, if you can follow it.  Few people do.

I will be exploring this area for myself.  I am a work in progress.

Here are books I would start with.